3 reasons single people need to stop complaining about Valentine's Day

Well, this may be a little late in the day to post about v-day...most of the chocolates and roses have been handed out. Right now most couples are out at a fancy restaurant or maybe even- the WORST- getting engaged.

But I'll tell you something...being single on Valentine's Day, despite what your single friends on Facebook and countless movies and internet memes and snarky cat lady bloggers would have you believe, isn't so bad.


In fact it seems that we've actually forgotten that Valentine's Day is about so much more than a day of being alone or wishing that you had someone to spend too much money on a eight piece box of Russell Stover.

Fellow singles, we've forgotten that Valentine's Day is actually pretty fun for some people and, at worst, the day before discounted chocolates.

1. Valentine's Day isn't against Singles

Okay so for some reason us single people tend to believe that anytime someone posts about their boyfriend or how great their wife is, it's a personal attack AGAINST our singlehood. In the same strain of thought, we've taken up Valentine's Day as a personal affront, another day reminding us that we suck and are forever alone.

Well, gee...if that isn't a bucketful of sunshiny thoughts?

What we've forgotten is that Valentine's Day isn't against us, it just happens to be FOR others. Think that's unfair?

Well, if you're a woman you should be HIGHLY offended that you'll never celebrate Father's Day. You're not?

Why?

Father's Day is for Fathers. It's not against people who AREN'T fathers. It's just meant for Fathers.

2.You're only as lonely as you want to be.

I guess this goes for just about anything in life. One of my favorite professors in college once said, "The only difference between a hardship and an adventure is your attitude."

So you don't have a significant other for the big V-day...get a friend to come over and watch sappy chick flicks. Or, if you want to be really mature about it, realize you're happiness won't be found in another man or woman.

Oh yeah, did I mention that some people are suffering a lot worse? You could always go to freerice.com and give an impoverished child a bowl of rice or donate the money you would have spent on taking a dame to dinner to Doctors Without Borders. (They're pretty awesome and you should probably watch every single on of their videos and ball your eyes out)

3. Being obsessive over your singleness only hurts yourself

If you're thinking, "I'm going to be very, very single and alone on Valentine's and it's going to stink" most likely you'll fulfill your own prophecy.

In keeping with the idea of changing your attitude, you need to change your thoughts, your life philosophy.

Are you really living for comfort and ease or are you living for something much greater? How about becoming obsessed with the local church or how you can serve others?

I say this to myself as much to anyone else. I've needed to give myself some tough love on many an occasion.

And let me just say this if you're still with me...being single is pretty stinking awesome. Being with someone is pretty stinking awesome.

Wow. They're both awesome.